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How to Build Self Confidence Through Personal Challenges

How to Build Self Confidence Through Personal Challenges
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Like many people, I often struggled with confidence as I was growing up. At times, I found myself desperately searching for new ideas of how to build self confidence. After many failed attempts and many frustrating moments, I learned something very important. The only way to achieve any kind of personal growth is through personal challenges. Included in this growth is self confidence.

What is Personal Growth?

Before we can really dive into the subject of building self confidence, it is important to first understand exactly what personal growth is. According to Marescan philosophy–that would be my philosophy–personal growth is an increase in one's ability to create value and live a happy life.

For example, if you add a tremendous amount of knowledge to your brain and become an expert in a field, you will have achieved personal growth. This knowledge enables you to add value to the world by sharing your expertise and creating something that can be useful to a great many people. This, in turn, increases your own sense of self-worth and adds to your ability to live the life you want to live. Value will be returned to you both monetarily and in the sense of satisfaction you get from helping others. This is an example of mental growth that is easy to see.

A less obvious example of personal growth lies in overcoming a fear. Fears hold us back from where we want to go in life by preventing us from doing something. If you are scared out of attempting something that could be good for your life, this fear must be conquered. The only way to overcome a fear is to face it. You may need to build up to it by taking small steps toward your fear, but in the end you must face your fear head-on if you ever want to get over it.

Fueling Personal Growth By Overcoming a Fear

This fear is a great example of an obstacle that has the ability to fuel personal growth. For this reason, it should be a welcomed challenge on your road to greatness. Right now, this fear has a power over you. The power in the fear is greater than your power to overcome it, and so you are currently stopped dead in your tracks. Many times you will approach this fear and wish you could get over it and move on to the next leg in your journey, but thus far you have been unable to conjure up the courage to do so.

Until now.

Now, it is time for you to take that next step. Now it is time for you to face your fear. Now it is time for you to create a personal challenge that will foster personal growth. This personal growth will be the power that you take from your fear.

And that power will propel you to greater heights than you could have ever imagined.

It all begins with the personal challenge.

The Challenge

So you have this fear that is blocking you from getting the most out of your life. It is stopping you from realizing your dreams. It is keeping you from being a happier person. It is holding you back.

And you are tired of being held back!

You want the courage to face your fear. You want the self confidence to know that the fear will no longer be able to stop you.

You want the POWER!

The power lies in the personal challenge. And this challenge is simple:

Create a goal that forces you to step out of your comfort zone on a daily basis.

In this case, your challenge would be to face your fear, in one way or another, on a daily basis. Do this for at least a week, but preferably a couple months, depending on the fear.

The point is that it takes time to create real personal growth. It takes time to build real self confidence. It takes time to truly conquer any obstacle that has been holding you back.

It takes time and consistent effort.

I've created several 100 day challenges for myself. Some included freeing myself of harmful addictions, while others included getting healthier and more physically fit. But the real mission of these challenges was to foster personal growth. It wasn't really about the results themselves; it was more about discovering something about myself and adding to my personal power.

When I gave up caffeine for 100 days, on the surface it was about decreasing my dependency. The urge to have an abundance of caffeine in order to be happy and productive made me realize that it was time to do something. But as the challenge grew, I knew that it wasn't really about the caffeine. It was about showing myself that I was powerful enough to fight off a strong urge. I learned that I could be incredibly disciplined if I put my mind to it. Moreover, I learned where in my mind I could find this discipline.

This is true personal growth.

How to Build Self Confidence

Self confidence is simply a belief and trust in yourself and your ability. The more challenges you create and complete, the more you will learn about your ability. More importantly, the more you will learn of how to find this ability any time you need it.

When you face a fear once, you defeat that fear. However, it will probably present itself again at some point in your future. By facing it again shortly after defeating it the first time, it will be easy to remember how to find the courage to defeat it again. By doing this over and over, you will make defeating this fear more and more automatic. Eventually, it may even enter your subconscious. This is mastering your fear. This is personal growth.

With this mastery and growth comes self confidence. You will know exactly where to find your true courage. You will then be able to bring out this courage to face other fears and improve other areas of your life. Through all of this, you will begin to trust yourself more and more. You will believe in your ability to do great things. You will eliminate a great deal of doubt and replace it with true confidence.

It is my firm belief that each of us has all the self confidence we will ever need to do anything. It is within us. It is simply a matter of locating this confidence and bringing it out when we need it most.

Locate your self confidence through personal challenges; once you find it, you'll know what to do with it.


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This article was contributed by Matt Maresca, a motivational entertainer who loves to inspire others with words and action. For more, visit his website at to see his unique approach to motivation, self improvement, and building self confidence.

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